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Text by: April Ruffner

We, as human beings, are all connected. When we are in a state of judgment and non-love toward others, we are essentially in a state of judgment and non-love toward ourselves. Mother Theresa once said, "If you judge people, you have no time to love them." This can also apply to judging ourselves. When we are not showing self-acceptance or love to ourselves, we will probably find it difficult to show it to others.
© Kevin Parker Photography

As you look into a mirror, what do you see in your reflection? Do you see a positive image, or is it difficult to look because you are concentrating on all of your faults and imperfections? For most of us, it is difficult to face a mirror, because we do not see ourselves for who we really are. We glaze over our limitless potential when we look into the mirror through a state of judgment. We sometimes choose to only see our faults and flaws rather than accepting them, blessing them, and doing what it takes to change them.

In her book, Remembering Wholeness, author Carol Tuttle teaches us that to make these changes, we must view life as a reflection of our deepest self.
© Bill Lindsay Photography
"Everything that we experience on the external world is a mirror… In viewing life as a mirror, we are able to see what we believe at a deeper level, things or emotions our conscious mind distorts and keeps hidden to us." In other words, rather than looking at our own reflection in the mirror, we should consider our reflection through the eyes of those who trigger within us an emotional response. It is through these people we can see our deeper belief systems; dreams not yet realized, poor habits we wish to break, or reminders of the life and character we wish to cultivate for ourselves.

An example of this would be a relationship with someone we look up to and admire. We are seeing a reflection of our own positive traits or the potential to cultivate those traits. On the other hand, our negative relationships can also be a reflection of the negativity within ourselves that we may have been consciously unaware of trying not to see.

The problem some might have with this theory is that it can be very difficult and painful to look within. Sometimes it is easier to place blame on others, rather than looking within to change those negative aspects of our character.

© Bill Lindsay Photography

By following the wise words of Mother Theresa and living in a constant state of reflecting love and non-judgment to others, we will find more of that love and non-judgment reflected back to us.